[House] San Francisco Parents of Multiples SFPOM General Discussion forum digest - 2/8/2013
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San Francisco Parents of Multiples SFPOM General Discussion 2/7/2013
10:14 am - 2/8/2013
1. Baby/family Photographer recommendations (elizabethb74)
2. Baby Carrier (elizabethb74)
3. Back to work... (anonymous)
4. Comment: Back to work... (HollyBuchanan)
5. Comment: How long to breastfeed? (rosisu)
6. Comment: How long to breastfeed? (seabringwatts)
7. Comment: How long to breastfeed? (MamaWobin)
8. Comment: How long to breastfeed? (nataliasha2004)
9. Comment: How long to breastfeed? (jessicafsf)
10. Comment: Sleep training for one of my babies (rosisu)
11. Comment: SAHM w/infant twins (lisamudd)
1. Baby/family Photographer recommendations
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elizabethb74 - 2/7/2013 11:21 pm
Looking for a good photographer for our newborntwins.If
you know of a great photographer I'd appreciate his/her
info and a link to their site it possible.Thanks so
much!
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Email author: elizabeth.v.brunner at gmail.com
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2. Baby Carrier
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elizabethb74 - 2/7/2013 11:19 pm
Hi POM,I'm in the market for a baby carrier and have
been researching many different brands. Thought I'd
reach out and see what Mom's out there like or dislike
about their carriers and if you have any
recommendations?I've narrowed it down to the Ergo and
the Becco but that's based on Amazon reviews. Any
thoughts?Thanks!
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3. Back to work...
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anonymous - 2/7/2013 2:45 pm
I am hoping to get some words of wisdom from the group
here. Back at work this week after a six month
maternity leave and having a rough time getting back in
the swing of things. I have a great job. Work in an
amazing company yet all of it seems so irrelevant now
that I'm back. I spend my days missing my 5 month old
boy/girl twins so much and wondering if I am making the
right decision being back at work. Not that it would
be financially easy to stop working BUT we could make
it work. Has anyone on here taken the leap and decided
to be a SAHM after going back to work FT? Are they
happy? Are there people on here that had a rough start
like me but got back into the groove? I'm sure half of
it is the grass is always greener syndrome. I was
lucky on maternity leave in that I had family and a
nanny that would watch the babies 5 hrs or so each day
so I could get out, workout, etc. I know that if I was
truly a SAHM much of that would get cut back. Still it
all really sounds wonderful right now... would love to
hear from others on their experiences.
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4. HollyBuchanan says...
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2/7/2013 3:06 pm
I had a rough first month, but I stuck with it and am
happy I did. I missed the kids and I didn't feel the
nanny was anywhere near engaged enough. Turns out, the
nanny was just shy and slow to warm up. She ended up
being the 2nd best thing that ever happened to us. I
know now in my heart that I couldn't be a good SAHM and
still be a good wife and have enough personal time -
it's a WAY more demanding job than my corporate job and
I have the utmost respect for SAHMs. But, there are
plenty of women in my playgroup that chose SAHM over
their job and that works for them. You just have to do
what feels best for you. Good luck!
Email author: h.buch at hotmail.com
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Topic: How long to breastfeed?
Hi all:
I'm curious how long most twin moms breastfeed. I understand
there are various...
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5. rosisu says...
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2/7/2013 5:52 am
at 6 months they start to produce their own antibodies
and their immune system will be developed therefore
the brestmilk it is not necessary anymore after that. I
too will stop pumping at 6 months since it is a real
job and it wont be critical to their development
anymore.
Email author: rosis at ptrehab.ucsf.edu
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6. seabringwatts says...
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2/7/2013 9:21 am
It is a personal decision, as you said, and a lot of
times it is out of your control based on many factors
such as being back at work, how much milk you can
produce (either pumping or breast feeding), how much
milk your babies need, how you feel, how well your
babies can nurse vs. drink from a bottle. That said,
you should be very proud of what you have done thus far
in nursing 2 babies until nearly 6 months!
Congratulations!I was at home for 2 years with my twins
when they were born before I went back to work full
time. So I did not have to pump at work, which really
is a big effort (and again, I commend you for doing
this.) So I had more flexibility to breast feed. My
twins were good nursers, which also made it easier for
me. As soon as they could start drinking cow's milk
(at 12 months), I stopped nursing during all their meal
times and switched to putting cow's millk in a sippy
cup. I kept nursing them first thing in the morning
and last thing before bedtime.For me, it was a lot
easier once I cut out some of the extra breast
feedings, but I could still enjoy that time with my
twins at the beginning and end of every day. It
allowed for more flexibility to get out of the house,
too. Because of this change in pattern, I found it
easy to keep breast feeding and so I kept it up until
my twins were 18.5 months.I think there are still
antibodies that are passed along from mother to baby
even after a baby is past 6 months, but it is worth
checking with your pediatrician for those details.
It's a little hazy in my mind now since my twins just
turned 5 years old! For whatever it is worth, I had
winter-born babies and was fortunate that they did not
get sick in infancy. It wasn't until they were past 6
months that I had a few occasional sicknesses (like an
ear ache.) I found that my twins really were quite
healthy, and I wonder if it was because of the breast
milk.Good luck with whatever you decide. You've done a
great thing by nursing both of your babies for these
first few months, which is no easy feat.
Email author: seabringwatts at gmail.com
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7. MamaWobin says...
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2/7/2013 11:08 am
I think you should go as long as it is enjoyable for
you and your babies. I stopped at 8 months because my
milk production just kind of stopped. I was laid off
around then and got a sinus infection so had to be on
decongestants which didn't help! I would have liked to
make it to a year but at 8 months I didn't want to do
all the herbs and intensive pumping to try to restart
my production. Plus my twins had started getting really
distracted by anything going on in the room and
wrestling with eachother during breastfeeding so I had
to switch from tandem feeds to one at a time so it had
become a bit of a hassle anyway. I was very sad about
stopping but they did not seem to notice or care at
all! So it just seemed like the right time for us.
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8. nataliasha2004 says...
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2/7/2013 1:23 pm
That's great that you're exploring this! There are
obviously a lot of pros and cons either way. ( For what
it's worth, the WORLD average for weaning is 2 to SEVEN
years of age! Obviously, that's not the American
average, but I thought that was interesting to learn..)
I went until our kids weaned themselves naturally
(about 14 months - but it was just maybe once a day,
for comfort, at the end). That made for a very smooth
transition -- I think we started solids around 8
months, and those gradually replaced BF by about a year
-- but we also used some express breast milk, and
occasionally formula, along the way. Our kids were
definitely healthiest while exclusively breastfed. The
composition of your breastmilk changes according to
their changing needs as they grown. The pros for
continuing, at least for me were:* overall, easier.
Yes, pumping - especially at work - was a bit of a
bother (tho I did enjoy the alone-time breaks from my
desk!!) but so is fiddling with any alternative. It's
quicker, warm, easier, less gear to wash. (There'll be
PLENTY of that for you to do later.) Also much less
expensive!* Diapers weren't smelly until they were off
breastmilk.* Eating for 2 (or 3)!! I couldn't believe
how quickly I gained weight when I stopped BF!
Seriously. I wish someone had warned me! It
apparently burns a lot of calories, feeding other
little humans!* It doesn't seem like it -- but that
cozy time together passes SO quickly, even if it
doesn't seem that way now.There's a little detailed
more info in the July/August 2011 issue of
Multiplicity, which you can read/download from the
"Files" tab, above, of BigTent. Just scroll thru the
titles till you find "July/August 2011 Multiplicity" or
something like that, then click to open it. That
includes a little more actual medical/scientific
info.Good luck to you, and how wonderful that you've
made it this far!! Every little bit helps.
Email author: nataliasha2004 at yahoo.com
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9. jessicafsf says...
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2/7/2013 1:45 pm
The official position of the American Association of
Pediatrics is to breastfeed until at least 12 months,
and then as long after that as mom and baby are
comfortable with.Of course, that's just an FYI. You can
only do what feels right for you and your babies. My
supply was super low, but I kept at it until "low"
turned to "nothing" at about 6 months... that was
almost all pumping, almost no breastfeeding because the
low supply made it to difficult to feed them both and
then supplement with a bottle of formula when I was by
myself with them.Good luck!
Email author: jessica at burrows.net
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Topic: Sleep training for one of my babies
Hi all:
Hope the week is going well. Just wanted to ask the twin
parents their opinion...
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10. rosisu says...
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2/7/2013 5:48 am
Hello, we had exactly the same situation with our
boy/girl, same age as your.the girl sleeping through
the night starting at 3 months and the boy waking up at
2 and 5. I was feeding him during these wake up time.
he also moved a lot at night so I kept swaddling him in
fear that if would unswaddle he would be awake the all
night. One month ago I decided to stop swaddling him at
night simply because I was worried he could roll over
and it is dangerous. the first night he woke up at
11....because now all sudden he was free but after that
he started to sleep though the night. What I noticed is
that if he was unswadle he could move his arms bring
his hands to the mouth and sooth himself back to sleep,
with the swaddle he was getting agitated because he
could not move his arms. I know it is scary to let them
unswaddle as you may think you will be up the all night
but it worked well for me and I think the swaddle was
making him uncomfortable. Now he does not move at night
anymore. I hope this help
Email author: rosis at ptrehab.ucsf.edu
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Topic: SAHM w/infant twins
If I can't find a nanny for my twins soon I will become a
SAHM.
I'm wondering what other SAHM...
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11. lisamudd says...
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2/7/2013 7:46 am
Hi, I had a chance to read the original post and some
of the responses. I apologize if their is some
redundancy, as I didn't have time to read them all. I
stay at home with my twins, who are now 2 years old.
What I did with the kids changed every few months -
some things really stuck and others evolved. However,
a few things proved to be very important. Each
"playgroup" has a coordinator. If your group doesn't
have one yet, volunteer. That is what I did and it
made all the difference. Our playgroup JJ 2011 is
incredibly active and families have formed great
friendships.Our group originated on BigTent and
migrated to Facebook. We found facebook a lot easier
because it was something that people could check with
more regularity. People would post that they were
going for a walk (and when and where) and those that
were free would join. We also began to plan a weekly
meet-up. When the kids were young and not mobile we
would pick a big cafe (like la boulange in noe valley
-outside) and all meet up for coffee or whatever.
Mornings always worked best. I would highly recommend
checking out the library Baby Rhyme Time. I also live
in Bernal Heights, like a previous poster, and I really
looked forward to those Wednesdays. Its nice to go to
your local library bc you will meet other local
moms.City College has a free infant playgroup class. I
never went, but have heard awesome things about it. I
would also recommend taking advantage of this time
where they are happy to just be strolled along in their
stroller and think of it as time for yourself. Wander
new neighborhoods or get a workout in...whatever works
for you. I wish my kids would be content to just be
pushed along in the stroller now. As soon as they were
walking they got antsy to get out and play.Day One and
Natural resources have classes that are great. At about
6 months I started going to the Creativity Museum and
just letting them play in the foam area. We went to
parks all the time at 4/5 months and I just put them in
the swing with blankets to prop them up OR I had them
share the swing which did the prop up duty.Lastly, the
best thing was a regular date I had with a friend. We
went to one of our houses each week for lunch. It was
nice to count on that each week. Our playgroup has
become so strong and so helpful bc of facebook. Its a
private group and we post questions, meet up with each
other, have happy hours, have had a few parties. We
have really watched each others kids grow in the past
two years. Now several of us take the zoo classes
together..... WHICH reminds me, the zoo has a little
playgroup, too for kids your kids....so check their
website out. My sanity is saved by making sure I have
a lot of social interaction. I don;t think I could be
a stay at home mom without it. Also, its expensive but
if you can swing it - Recess is awesome. As they get
older, get museum memberships. The Academy of Sciences
has an awesome toddler room. My kids loved the academy
at around 6 months just to look at the fish! If you
decide to stay home, you will find your groove. It is
tough and there are days where I feel like I am ready
to go back to work....and I know I will, but in the
meantime I have found it to be quite enjoyable.
Email author: lisamudd at gmail.com
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