[House] San Francisco Parents of Multiples SFPOM General Discussion forum digest - 9/4/2013

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San Francisco Parents of Multiples SFPOM General Discussion 9/2/2013
9:13 am - 9/4/2013

1. At a loss...advice needed (kind of long) (ppatcat)
2. Comment: At a loss...advice needed (kind of long) (jessicafsf)
3. Comment: Night nurse recommendations? (gatomal)

1. At a loss...advice needed (kind of long)
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ppatcat - 9/3/2013 4:51 pm

 Our 12 month old twins are now very mobile (crawling,
 standing, and wanting to walk). Until today, during
 bath time, I'd put one twin in an exersaucer (that is
 in the bathroom) while I bathed the second twin, and
 then switched until my husband came home around 7pm to
 play with the bathed baby. The twins love their daily
 bath time and it's part of their bedtime ritual. 
 Today, both refused the exersaucer (I think because
 we've been on vacation for two weeks and have had both
 parents to play while one is being bathed; and because
 of increased mobility). So I put our son in the bath
 while our daughter played around me on the floor in the
 bathroom. While I was paying attention to our son, our
 daughter pulled herself up on the side of the tub and
 then fell flat on her back and hit her head on the
 tile! I immediately pulled our son naked from the bath
 and put him on the carpeted floor of the nursery, so I
 could comfort our daughter. Both fell apart and I was
 by myself with one soaking wet, naked baby and another
 freaked out from falling and in pain.This cannot happen
 again. I've tried allowing one to play in the carpeted
 nursery while I bathe the second, but each crawls into
 the bathroom and neither wants to be alone/out of
 eyesight of me during the other twins' bath time. In
 fact, they like "talking" to one another and showing
 toys to one another during bath time.We have a FT nanny
 from 7:30-4:30, and I have them myself until 7 when my
 husband gets home. Should I change the nanny's hours to
 stretch until when my husband gets home? I'm not too
 keen on that because I really enjoy my alone time with
 my children --playing, feeding them dinner, etc. My
 husband can't get home any sooner than 7, and by then
 the babies are ready for last bottle and bed.What have
 you all done? I've heard about the bath chairs, but
 have never used them. Is that my only choice? Please,
 I'd love to hear any and all suggestions. Bath time is
 normally such a calm time for us and I don't want to
 force the babies into the exersaucer and have them
 screaming while I'm trying to create a calm atmosphere
 before bed.Thank you so much!

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Email author: priya.patil at me.com
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 2. jessicafsf says...
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 9/3/2013 8:31 pm
 
 Boo - sorry for a stressful evening! I was planning to
 buy the bath chairs when my kids were younger, but
 never got around to it. Once our kids were
 confidently/reliably sitting up on their own, we just
 bathed them together. I bought a couple of non-skid
 mats that suction to the bottom of the tub, and then
 would only fill the tub 1/4 of the way or so. We had a
 strict rule that anytime one of them would stand up,
 bath was over, but they didn't spend too much time
 trying to stand - mostly they were just happy to sit
 and play in the water.When I was ready to get them out,
 I'd drain the water from the tub first, then pull one
 out, dry them off, and get the other one out. You could
 also just put a towel down on the floor of the bathroom
 and get them both out at the same time.If you're really
 not comfortable with both in the bath at the same time
 unrestricted, I think the bath seats work well - but
 I've never actually used one.The only other alternative
 I can think of is to have your nanny stay an extra half
 hour, and do baths as soon as you get home - before
 dinner. Or have her stay later once or twice a week,
 and just do baths on those nights. (We have never
 bathed our kids on a daily basis. It's not part of our
 bedtime routine, so some days it just doesn't seem like
 there's time for it.)Good luck! I'm sure you'll come up
 with a new routine that works well for them soon. This
 is how you spend their whole childhood, right? as soon
 as you get comfortable with a certain routine or
 activity, the kids are ready for something new!
 Email author: jessica at burrows.net
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Topic: Night nurse recommendations?

 Hi,
 
 We are looking for a recommendation for night nurses for
 twins we are expecting...

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 3. gatomal says...
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 9/3/2013 4:07 pm
 
 My nameis: Jacqueline MayMy phone number is:
 415-810-8399My email address is:
 may.jacqueline at yahoo.comMy caregiver's name is: Dalia
 ArlakiMycaregiver's contact information is:
 hdalia13 at gmail.com or (415) 323-8943 Timeemployed for
 our family: 16 weeksCA Drivers License:
 YesRecentImmunizations: YesCertifications:CPRLocations
 she is interested working: San FranciscoType
 ofemployment she is seeking: baby night nurse who
 specializes in twins startingthis September as she is
 currently with a family until thenChild'sAge: during
 her care of them born at 36 weeks until 16 weeks As
 first time parents with premature twins, there was a
 lot for us to learn--andquickly. I knew I would need
 lots of help, especially at night, and I am so
 gladDalia was there for us. It's critical to find
 someone who is a good fit withyour family, especially
 someone who will be with you overnight. Dalia
 iscomfortable, confident and loving around babies. She
 was very flexible--she wasthere the first night when we
 came home with the babies, and she was thereevery night
 we needed her help (we ended up on a six-night a week
 schedule forthe first 2.5 months) I was very ill after
 returning home, (severepre-eclampsia and a C-section),
 and being able to rest through the night was crucialfor
 me getting better, caring for and enjoying the kids. 
 Dalia gotthe kids on a schedule immediately, recorded
 how much they drank, and when,number of diapers and
 kinds, etc. details so helpful when taking the girls
 tothe doctor for check-ups and tracking their overall
 progress. As premies, wehad a challenging time keeping
 them awake long enough to have them feed well,but Dalia
 was masterful. We always counted on her being able to
 get them lotsof calories during the night, enabling
 them to gain weight quickly, andconsequently sleep
 train early. Once thekids hit about 2.5 months, we
 started sleep training them, and she was here tohelp
 them (and us) through the process. Happily, the girls
 have been sleepingthough the night since 3 months.
 (first 6:30 pm to 5:30 am, with a dream feedat 10:00p,
 and now at 14 months 7 pm until 7:30 am). Icouldn't
 imagine going through those months without her.
 Recommended to us byanother SFPOM mom on the forum,
 every reference I called got back to me thatday with
 their glowing recommendation..."she saved my
 marriage""she took great care of the babies so I could
 rest and recover""I trust her implicitly with my
 children". We stillsee her for walks and lunch, and
 she loves to see the girls growing andwalking! Get the
 most important baby gift you can for yourself--a
 fantasticnight nurse like Dalia Arlaki! She comes with
 my highest recommendation.
 Email author: may.jacqueline at yahoo.com
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