[House] San Francisco Parents of Multiples SFPOM General Discussion forum digest - 1/6/2014

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San Francisco Parents of Multiples SFPOM General Discussion 1/5/2014
10:14 am - 1/6/2014

1. Night Nurse - duration and cost (SLeichtner)
2. Comment: Night Nurse - duration and cost (lmcdowell)
3. Comment: Night Nurse - duration and cost (nmolayem)

1. Night Nurse - duration and cost
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SLeichtner - 1/5/2014 12:48 pm

 We are expecting twins in April and we already have a
 son who will be turning two when the twins born. We
 have a great night doula lined up to help us but at $40
 per hour we are wondering if we can get by with fewer
 than five nights a week for three months. We can afford
 it if necessary, but wanted to know what this group
 thought. My husband will return to work soon after the
 babies are born and I will be home with the three kids,
 likely with a nanny during the day, at least in the
 beginning until I adjust. I'd love to hear
 recommendations on the number of nights per week and
 for how long, as well as if $40/hour is standard.
 Thanks!

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 2. lmcdowell says...
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 1/5/2014 6:27 pm
 
 Is she helping with your 2-year old too? Is she helping
 you with breastfeeding or other recovery stuff or is
 her focus on the babies? I had a night nanny who did
 everything for the babies as far as cleaning/sanitizing
 bottles and my pump gear, changing, burping, bottle
 feeding when I wasn't breastfeeding, soothing if
 necessary, baby laundry and cleaned our kitchen/dinner
 dishes, and ultimately had our babies sleeping 12 hours
 by about 4.5 months. She was $30/hr which I felt was
 pretty standard. $40 sounds high, but again, if she's
 helping you recover or has additional responsibilities
 with your 2 year old, that might be reasonable. I did 5
 nights a week, sun-thu as my husband really couldn't
 help those night. As far as duration, I think many
 people do 2 months or maybe slightly longer as it's a
 huge expense. To us, it was worth it to do a bit
 longer, about 4.5 months, until they were sleeping 7-7
 with just a dreamfeed at 10pm. By 3 months or so, many
 babies are doing a long stretch from 10pm-4am or so
 (though I'm sure that varies by baby!), so you could
 consider doing fewer nights a week at that point.
 Email author: lauren.mcdowell at ymail.com
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 3. nmolayem says...
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 1/5/2014 7:29 pm
 
 Congratulations!We payed $35/hour for help with our
 twins, no other kids, and she would do the kids
 laundry, all bottles and dishes, bottle feed, wake me
 up to feed, and some other little things that I can't
 think of right now. I've heard $40/hour is typical for
 twins, though.We had her for three months,
 sunday-thursday.I'd say the first month is the most
 important to have 5 nights a week. We probably could
 have done 3 nights/week for the last few weeks but we
 had already committed to 5 and also it was soooo nice
 to know that I could sleep a few hours without worrying
 and know that I would have a stack of clean clothes and
 clean bottles in the morning.We also had a hard time
 paying for it, but I would do it again in a heartbeat.
 We were just nicer people when we had help and we could
 enjoy the babies so much more- rather than just being
 robots with them.Good luck!
 Email author: nmolayem at gmail.com
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