San Francisco Parents of Multiples SFPOM General Discussion 3/8/2012 10:15 am - 3/9/2012
1. Umbrella stroller recommendations (ccranes)
2. Plane travel at 25/26 weeks (sfteach)
3. Comment: Plane travel at 25/26 weeks (HollyBuchanan)
4. 24-hour nurse recommendation (eeewww)
5. Comment: Nanny paid days off? (sfbamob)
6. Comment: Nanny paid days off? (hpearl)
7. Comment: Nanny paid days off? (virginia335)
8. Comment: Nanny paid days off? (hilaryandwendy)
9. Comment: Nanny paid days off? (leslie_g)
10. Comment: Help Wanted: New Advertising Coordinator... (katyperez)
11. Comment: 26 weeks pregnant & on Bed Rest (carogamse)
12. Comment: 26 weeks pregnant & on Bed Rest (ccranes)
1. Umbrella stroller recommendations
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ccranes - 3/8/2012 8:12 pm
Any suggestions for an umbrella stroller besides the
Maclaren?
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2. Plane travel at 25/26 weeks
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sfteach - 3/8/2012 11:51 am
Hello!My sister is getting married in May and I am the
maid-of-honor and my daughter is the flower girl. On
the weekend of her wedding I will be 25 turning 26
weeks. Two out of three doctors told me they normally
do not permit pregnant twin moms to fly after 24 weeks,
but if everything is going well they would let me go
since it is an important event. The third doctor said
"No way. You can't go." I will be very, very sad to
miss my sister's wedding, but of course, I will be
devastated if I go into pre-term labor on the plane or
in Texas. Background info: -So far, my pregnancy is a
healthy one-By the time we take two flights, plus drive
to our destination, the total travel time will be 12
hours.-We are staying for four nights.-My husband will
be traveling with me and my daughter, and she has her
own plane seat.-We are staying in the same hotel for
four nights, and we booked two adjoining rooms, so I
can have my own napping and nighttime sleeping place.My
question is: If things were going well in your twin
pregnancy at 25/26 weeks, and your doctor gave you the
green light to go, but with a bit of hesitancy, would
you go? Thanks in advance for your input!
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3. HollyBuchanan says...
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3/8/2012 1:40 pm
I felt absolutely fantastic at 28 weeks and suddenly
went into pre-term labor. My kids were in the NICU for
2 months. Had I been traveling, we would have been
stuck in the town where they were born while they were
hospitalized, then faced with the problem of getting
home, as preemies aren't allowed to fly or be at
elevation until 20 weeks after their due date. I know
it's hard, I missed a trip due to the pregnancy as
well, but the safe decision is to stay home. That
said, I know I'd be just as tempted to go as you
probably are. I hope it all turns out well for you.
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4. 24-hour nurse recommendation
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eeewww - 3/8/2012 11:51 am
we are expecting twins in July (although they could
come in June). Is it too early to start looking at baby
nurses? Or do I have to get on this ASAP?I am looking
for recommendations for 24-hour nurses. We had a night
nurse with my first and that worked well. But with a
toddler and two infants, I think a 24-hour nurse will
be best. From people I know that have them, they cost
about the same as the night nurses here. you just have
to pay their airfare from the east coast.Any
recs?Thanks.
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Topic: Nanny paid days off?
I was wondering if anyone could educate me on the protocol
for providing paid sick...
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5. sfbamob says...
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3/8/2012 6:44 am
If you search the forums, you'll find this topic comes
up a lot and people do things differently. However,
you'll see that agencies and many (hopefully most)
suggest/offer a FT nanny 2 weeks (10 days) paid
vacation, paid major holidays off (you can talk to your
nanny about which ones beyond the obvious ones -- like
T-day is off but what about the various 3-day weekends
that arise in winter like President's Day, MLK, etc.),
and some paid sick days. Some put a number on those
sick days; others just say "a reasonable number". You
can simply raise it if it becomes an issue, which I
doubt it will. You can also talk to your nanny about
trying to coordinate so one of her/his vacation weeks
overlaps with one of yours. This is often easy as many
nannies like to take some time off during Christmas,
when many families are on vacation too.I hope this
helps.
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6. hpearl says...
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3/8/2012 9:19 am
Thanks, this is helpful.
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7. virginia335 says...
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3/8/2012 9:35 am
Also the city of San Francisco requires you pay
sick-time for hourly employees based on how many hours
they work.
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8. hilaryandwendy says...
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3/8/2012 11:47 am
I'm a big fan of trying to be as fair as possible.
Here's what we do:1. 5 sick/personal days that are use
it or lose it on an annual basis;2. Two weeks paid
vacation, one week of which must be taken when we are
on vacation. As we usually take 3-4 weeks of vacation,
this works out that he gets 3-4 weeks of vacation plus
his week off (he goes to Burning Man). Although this
seems like a lot, the way I look at it, if my boss
takes three weeks of vacation, I still get paid. We do
ask him when we're on vacation to take us to the
airport and pick us up, come by and run laundry once
while we're out, move the car for street cleaning,
etc.3. We give 6-8 major days off (Christmas, T-giving,
MLK Day, etc.)This adds up to a lot, but if you have a
nanny you like and anticipate/hope having for the
long-term, I think a fair relationship is really
important. He's happy to stay late when he can and move
things around, and I think a lot of that is because he
feels we try to treat him fairly. On the other hand,
I'm not able to give salary increases every year
(really, any year) as long as I provide this framework,
and I made that clear (though as our kids get older,
the work gets saner, so in some level keeping this
level for years probably benefits him slightly more
over the long run). Good luck!Hilary
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9. leslie_g says...
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3/8/2012 3:47 pm
Hi -- Here is what I have learned from my own
experience & others (nanny agencies, SFPOM Club &
TVMOTC members).The hourly range for a nanny in this
area varies from $18/hr to $24/hr. It is standard that
you offer them 2 weeks of Paid Time Off (PTO) in
addition to standard holidays. This PTO can be used by
the nanny however they choose -- for sick days or
vacation. You are responsible to pay for any time that
is not used -- or ensure they take the days off. By
California law, this type of an employee should receive
time & a half for hours over 45 hours per week. A
holiday bonus is also very standard (but optional) &
suggested to be 1 weeks salary. The full-time nannies
count on full weeks, so if you do not need them, you
still are expected to pay them -- I have on occasion
been able to coordinate that she takes a PTO day at the
same time. It might be different for a part-time nanny
-- I am not sure!In terms of the extra duties, they
vary greatly between nannies. I used a nanny agency to
find mine -- the applicant forms included sheets where
they specified the extra duties they were willing to
take on -- the range was amazing (from none to will
shop, cook all your meals, do the whole families
laundry, clean your house & take care of the dog!).
Most did say they would pick up after the kids &
prepare simple meals for them.Here are more specifics
on my personal experience. I work full time, outside
of the house M-Th & then from home on Fridays. My b/g
twins are 28 months now.Nanny Search - It sounds like
you have found a nanny already -- congrats for finding
someone who you like. For anyone who is still looking
here is my advice: I reviewed numerous resumes,
interviewed several via phone, 4 in person & then had 2
do trial days (believe it or not, one fell asleep on
the couch while I was there -- said she was sick. At
lunch time, she assumed she could help herself &
commented that she had other beverage preferences -- I
was shocked! Am paying her & also expected to feed her
& feed her what SHE wants?!). I actually had my top
candidate on a trial 2 week period before we made it
official. I would not recommend paying nanny agency
fees until you are satisfied. Personalities are very
important -- they will influence your children's
personalities & they impact the vibe of the household
while they are there! Our nanny started when our twins
were 3.5 months. Both my husband & I had a very good
feeling about her initially. We were living with my
mom at the time as we re-located to the east bay, so
she was in & out and able to be my initial eyes & ears
which gave me comfort. I knew it was right when our
nanny asked to take them out for a walk down the street
in the snap & go and I felt ok (vs. panic) when she
walked out the door with my two babies!Salary &
Holidays - We offered her $19 / hr to start. After one
year, we increased it to $20 / hr. In terms of set
holidays, my company alternates President's Day &
Martin Luther King Day each year -- so I ensured that
the standard holidays that we would use would be my
companies. I provide them to her for the upcoming year
when they are available. In terms of payments -- nanny
wages & taxes can be quite complicated. I chose at
least for the first year with returning to work, to not
take that responsibility on. We use a company to
manage that for us -- they withdraw from my acct &
direct deposit into her account. Although there are
fees, they are worth it for me, so I plan to continue
using the service. If you are interested the company
we are using is breedlove.com. Extra Duties - She does
light housekeeping & cooks very simple meals (scrambled
eggs, French toast, mac & cheese with carrots & peas,
etc.). I have occasionally given her recipes to
prepare (some successful & some not). She sweeps the
kitchen area every other day & washes/folds/puts away
the kids laundry/bedding as needed. I don't do the
kids laundry over the weekend unless urgent needed -- I
let her take care of it when she comes in. She has
offered to do some of my/my husband's laundry as well,
but we have not taken her up on that. In addition, she
wipes down the counters & is constantly organizing the
kids toys! (You sure can see a difference on the days
she is not there.) She eats her lunch while the kids
are asleep & after things are "in order", will surf the
web on her laptop (20-30 mins). She takes the kids to
storytime at the library 3 times a week & to the park
on other days. I do not pay for her gasoline. I hope
this answered your questions -- if not, or if you have
more, just let me know!- Leslie
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Topic: Help Wanted: New Advertising Coordinator for SFPOM
Newsletter, Multiplicity, Needed
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10. katyperez says...
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3/8/2012 12:13 pm
The position has been filled. Thank you!
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Topic: 26 weeks pregnant & on Bed Rest
I was just put on bed rest yesterday and am trying to keep
my twin girls inside as...
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11. carogamse says...
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3/8/2012 8:31 am
Oh my god I can't believe I just saw this! I was also
put on bedrest at 26 weeks, 2 months of which were
spent in the hospital. You are at home though, yes? I
second the recommendation for the iPad-- saved my life.
I also recommend putting plants in your room. I'm not
really fung-shuey-ey, but the plants really made me
feel better I also recommend getting a stool for the
shower, so you can sit a bit, since you will need it as
you get bigger!! I made it to 36 weeks, when my water
broke, and I am SO SO SO happy that I did the bedrest.
Whether it helped or not, it made me feel like i was
doing the most I could in a situation that I could not
control. And my babies spent NO time in the NICU and
are huge, adorable 8 month olds now. So hang in
there!!
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12. ccranes says...
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3/8/2012 8:09 pm
I was on hospital bedrest for 6 weeks. The daily visits
and phone calls byfriends made all the difference in
the world.When people offer to help, don't turn them
down. It was hard for me to accept help but I learned
as time went by to say "yes"
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