San Francisco Parents of Multiples SFPOM General Discussion 12/13/2012 10:13 am - 12/14/2012
1. Comment: When both babies cry..... (stefaniesada)
2. Re:When both babies cry..... (dm_sonora)
3. Comment: transitioning to toddler beds (katyperez)
4. Comment: How to gently give feedback to my mom... (katyperez)
Topic: When both babies cry.....
What advice can anyone give about how to soothe the twins
when they are both crying...
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1. stefaniesada says...
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12/13/2012 2:58 pm
It will get better. In the meantime, try putting them
in two bouncy chairs, setting them in front of you as
you sit on a chair or couch, and rocking them
simultaneously with your feet as you say something
soothing (shushing, humming, singing, whatever feels
right) might help. I can't tell you how often our
girls went to sleep this way. Sometimes it takes a few
minutes, but it really does work well.Swaddling worked
really well for our one girl who was pretty colicky--I
thought I was in hell at the time, although in
retrospect I realize that as colick goes, it wasn't all
that bad.I also agree with the writers who note that
they are likely to start taking turns with the real
meltdowns. Best of luck to you!
Email author: stefaniesada@gmail.com
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2. dm_sonora says...
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12/13/2012 4:27 pm
I totally feel your pain. It doesn't seem fair at all
to mom or babies- one mom and two infants????The infant
stage was the most overwhelming for me. I agree it was
like Sophie's Choice, every day. Choosing who to care
for and who to ignore was an impossible for me. It gets
A LOT EASIER when they have more head control, can
walk, can talk, etc. In my experience. Hang in there,
you have my support.I also agree that crying,
especially if they get to see you and hear you, is not
going to scar anyone. I still struggle with trying to
make things equal emotionally and attention-wise for
them. My friend told me, "Just accept it: You are going
to love them differently in different ways and that's
OK." -Darca
Email author: darca@hub3.net
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Topic: transitioning to toddler beds
dear veteran mamas! any words of wisdom? :)
holiday travel is upon us, and one...
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3. katyperez says...
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12/13/2012 8:41 am
Hi - I can't give much advice on the 'transition'
aspect, other than your kids may surprise you! We were
concerned that it was going to be a big deal to
transition from cribs to their toddler beds and it was
really not - they were actually super excited with
their little beds. Unfortunately, we did have problems
with them rolling out of the toddler beds, and so we
did end up buying rails to use (which I am actually
selling in the classifieds right now ;-)). The main
comment I wanted to make though, is even though only
one may be the climber, they may influence the other
one. We had one that was definitely the climber, but
one night walked in and found her pushing and pulling
to assist her sister into climbing out as well.
Email author: ktloomis25@aol.com
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Topic: How to gently give feedback to my mom about child
care style?
Let me first start by saying how lucky I am to have family
close by that are happy...
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4. katyperez says...
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12/13/2012 9:02 am
If it is bothering you, I say you should at least
mention something to her about it, otherwise I could
see it building and then becoming a bigger issue than
what it really is/started out as. Maybe focus on
safety related concerns, like the placement on the
floor example.However, I know with my own mom, although
she LOVES my girls and always has; she is not much of a
'baby' person. And when they were smaller (under 1)
she didn't directly interact with them as much as say
my mother-in-law who just can't get enough of them
(like how you described your nanny).Now that they are 3
1/2, she interacts and plays with them way more. But
she still does it on her own terms; she directs what
she wants to do with them, versus my MIL will do
whatever the girls want. I think part of it is comfort
level, but also just personality differences.
Email author: ktloomis25@aol.com
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