San Francisco Parents of Multiples SFPOM General Discussion 1/7/2013 10:14 am - 1/8/2013
1. questions about average/appropriate nanny pay (anonymous)
2. Comment: questions about average/appropriate nanny pay (leslieb_sf)
3. Comment: questions about average/appropriate nanny pay (kaluzoo)
4. Comment: Warming Twins Bottles ? (twin_boys_on_twinpeaks)
5. Comment: Having to leave babies in NICU...how do I cope... (karu_garg)
6. Comment: Having to leave babies in NICU...how do I cope... (twin_boys_on_twinpeaks)
7. Comment: Having to leave babies in NICU...how do I cope... (elyich)
1. questions about average/appropriate nanny pay
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anonymous - 1/7/2013 4:23 pm
My nanny has been with us for 2.5 years since my first
child was 4 months old. Our nanny is wonderful and we
are very grateful to have her.She was young and
relatively inexperienced when we hired her and we
agreed on a wage of $17/hour, which she was very happy
with. I realize this is on the lower end of the
spectrum, but because of her age and lack of experience
everyone seemed happy.For no particular reason, she did
not get a raise after working for us for a year. It was
not intentional, but it just didn't happen. So on her
two year anniversary, we offered her a raise to
$20/hour for the care of our one child. I had just
recently had twins as well, but we made it clear that
this was just a raise because she had been with us for
two years, and was not intended to be a raise for the
care of now 3 children. We have had substantial other
help with the twins for their early months.Although
$20/hour is still not on the high end of the scale for
one child (I don't think), it was a significant raise
from her previous rate.We are now about to start
discussing a raise again because she has some
responsibility for the twins. Her schedule is blended.
She sometimes has just the twins, sometimes just the
toddler, and occasionally all three. I want to give her
one rate though.Basically, she cares for the twins solo
on Monday, Wednesday and Friday mornings when the
toddler is in preschool. On those days she is not
really responsible for the toddler until after her nap
at about 4 pm. On Tuesdays and Thursdays she has all
three from 8 am to 9 am and then we have a part time
nanny that is here from 9-1:30, so she doesn't have the
twins again until after that. The twins sleep until 3
and the toddler sleeps until 4. 5 days a week she has
all three from after the toddler nap until 5 pm, when
the part time nanny comes again every day to care for
the twins through their bedtime.Where you ask am I? I'm
working. From the office M,T,TH, and from home
W,F.Anyway, she has all three for about 1/8 of the
time, twins solo for about 1/2 of the time, toddler
solo for about 1/4 and blended help either from me or
the other nanny 1/8 of the time. It's all kind of
fluid.So my husband and I had kind of decided to give
her another raise up to $22/hour, which seemed pretty
fair for the schedule she has and in comparison to her
previous compensation.However, she came to us and asked
us to pay for her health insurance instead of a raise.
She is turning 26 and will be bumped off her parents
insurance. I told her we of course have intended to
give her a raise with the new year and that we can
discuss the raise vs. help with healthcare (I did not
commit to paying it in full). She wants to continue
with the same policy, and she just informed me that it
will be $450/month for her medical and dental
benefits.I had my accountant do the calculations (we
pay her 40 hours/week over the table and generally
about 12.5 hours/week under the table). I wanted to see
what the $22/hour raise would net her with the over and
under table pay, and what it would take to get her to
the $450 extra per month she is requesting.$450/month
is essentially a raise to about $24/hour. This is
definitely higher than we had intended, especially
since we also recently hired a part time nanny to help
with the twins to minimize anyone's time alone with all
three.I am trying to figure out how to approach this. I
want her to be happy. I don't think she will leave us.
But I just want her to be happy. I also don't want to
pay more than we are comfortable. We are pretty
stretched right now with all this help (yes, I know it
is a luxury). But while the babies are young we decided
it was worth it.I just want to know what is average pay
for a nanny with her type of responsibility. I don't
think $24 is out of the range even though it is more
than I'd like. But is $22 crazy low? Or decent given
her previous rate?Thanks.
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2. leslieb_sf says...
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1/7/2013 6:29 pm
I was just in the process of hiring a nanny for my
infant twins and it seems like you are in the ballpark
with $24/hr for a nanny for infant twins. The people I
interviewed from both care.com and those I found
through GGMG or SFPOM had a going rate range of
$22-$25/hr for twins. I have heard of a range going as
low as $20/hr and as high as $30/hr ($30/hr seems
ridiculous to me).
Email author: leslieellen@gmail.com
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3. kaluzoo says...
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1/7/2013 10:48 pm
We pay our amazing nanny $24/hour for our 8 month old
twins (no other kids, and she's full time). She has
significant experience, much of it with twins, though
it sounds like your nanny is pretty experienced at this
point now as well :).
Email author: sarahchandler@gmail.com
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Topic: Warming Twins Bottles ?
Hello,
First day home with my twin girls and we are having a tough
time with the...
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4. twin_boys_on_twinpeaks says...
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1/7/2013 10:38 am
we used room temp water. They got used to it pretty
quickly. It made life MUCH easier.
Email author: regina_eberhart@yahoo.com
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Topic: Having to leave babies in NICU...how do I cope?
I gave birth to 2 sweet babies on Jan. 1, at 32 weeks. We
were obviously hoping to...
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5. karu_garg says...
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1/7/2013 10:53 am
Hi, Our babies were in the NICU for 10 days and 3 weeks
respectively. While it's hard, know that they are
receiving the best possible care that they can, and
that you can learn a lot from those amazing NICU
nurses. This is also an opportunity for you to take
time and rest and heal, because believe me you will
have NO time once those babies are home. Hang in
there, you will all be together (at home) soon! Good
luck!!
Email author: karu_garg@hotmail.com
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6. twin_boys_on_twinpeaks says...
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1/7/2013 1:24 pm
What everyone else said! We used the time in the NICU
to heal and sleep, have dinner together before the
crazy began, and spent our days learning how to be a
mom and dad to our new babes--we got great advice from
the NICU docs and nurses. I know it sucks, but they
are getting great care!
Email author: regina_eberhart@yahoo.com
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7. elyich says...
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1/7/2013 11:35 pm
Like everyone else, it's definitely hard to leave them
there. I shed many tears and wasn't afraid to do so.
Even though I knew they were in the best care, you
can't help but feel overwhelmingly sad. Be with loved
ones and heal because once they get home they will
require all your energy. Hang in there!
Email author: elyich@yahoo.com
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