San Francisco Parents of Multiples SFPOM General Discussion 7/17/2013 9:14 am - 7/18/2013
1. Comment: Good ole fashion sleep training question (sept18_sf)
2. Comment: Good ole fashion sleep training question (colevalleymom)
3. Comment: Vaginal delivery anyone? (juliel08)
4. Comment: Vaginal delivery anyone? (abbypease)
5. Comment: Vaginal delivery anyone? (MamaWobin)
6. Comment: Vaginal delivery anyone? (kulida)
7. Comment: Housework (twinpeakstwins)
Topic: Good ole fashion sleep training question
Ok, looking for some wisdom from you experienced mamas out
there. We're just about...
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1. sept18_sf says...
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7/17/2013 1:10 pm
We just let our babies cry it out when they woke up in
the middle of the night - this was around 4.5-5 months
old. At this point they were going to sleep around 7pm
and only waking up once around 2 or 3am to eat then
they'd sleep again until around 6:30am. I literally
put earplugs in so I couldn't hear them cry. (Mine
were only born at 34 weeks and my son was very small -
only 2lbs 6oz at birth.)I am not sure if your babies
are too old to let them just cry it out through the
night, but if I were you I'd try that, but if you don't
want to try that perhaps calling a doula to help would
make things easier on you. At this point I think they
can sleep through the night if you want them too.
Email author: leslieellen@gmail.com
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2. colevalleymom says...
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7/18/2013 12:01 am
We are going through the same thing. Our 6 mo boys
typically go down at 6:30 and were waking once around
2-3 am for a feed and then back to bed until abt 6:30.
But they both started waking up multiple times per
night (paci falling out, one waking the other) and I
started bringing them to bed to try to keep them quiet.
Ugh. It's a slippery slope. So we decided that it
was time for CIO. Strangely enough, the night we
decided to implement it, the wakings decreased on their
own...perhaps they sensed we were serious! But, to
answer your question, except for the 2:00 am feed, if
they wake, we just let them cry. I have read in many
places that the twin will learn to tune out the other
and that although they may wake in response to the
other for the first night or two, it is better to CIO
with them in the same room so that they both adjust.
Good luck!!
Email author: mbrown@stanfordmed.org
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Topic: Vaginal delivery anyone?
I was lucky to deliver my twins vaginally. The labor and
delivery was very quick,...
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3. juliel08 says...
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7/17/2013 2:41 am
I delivered vaginally at 36 weeks. Baby B was also
breech. I was told by all of nurses told that not many
OBs will do it and this was a rare delivery (at least
at CPMC). You really need an old school OB as they
don't teach it anymore in med school. (Dr. Lam at
GGOBGYN is the man, and a few of his partners will also
do it, and you really have to fight for it). I think
it's either super easy to get a breech B out or can
take 1 - 2 hours. Some try to flip the baby, but Dr.
Lam (and colleagues) like to quickly grab the legs and
pull. I was super luck and baby B came out 2 minutes
after A. (they were both 5 lbs, so that helped). It was
pretty awesome. For those of you who are pregnant, and
want to go for vag and your OB says "no", I'd look
around for another. (I know a lot of twin moms who were
told vaginal with baby B breech is not an option - this
just isn't true).
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4. abbypease says...
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7/17/2013 10:25 am
You should know there's about a 5% chance that you can
have both, like I did. Delivered early at 34 weeks and
6 days, A was an easy vaginal delivery, but B (also
head down) wouldn't come down and I had to have a
section for her.Not to discourage you, but just be
aware of the possibility!
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5. MamaWobin says...
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7/17/2013 5:16 pm
I was induced at 38 weeks after Baby B stopped growing.
The docs wanted to perform a C-section at 36 weeks but
she was still healthy (heart, movement etc.) so I
wanted to wait as long as I could. Once they finally
talked me into inducing I was "in labor" for 48 hours,
6 hours of real pushing. I did the epidural and several
other drugs - I basically took anything they offered.
Of course this may all have prolonged the whole process
but it also made it tolerable so I don't regret it!
Baby A was 7.5 lbs (most of it his head I swear) and
Baby B was 4.5 lbs and a breech extraction. They pulled
her out by one leg 3 minutes after her brother. Both
were totally healthy. No NICU, no hip issues. She was
feisty and HUNGRY. At 1.5 years I think she still holds
a grudge against her big brother and doesn't like to
share anything with him, especially food!
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6. kulida says...
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7/17/2013 10:03 pm
Wow! Thanks for your stories! I wouldn't believe there
is an option for vaginal delivery with one baby in
breech position.I delivered at Kaiser. Both my babies
were head down, so they let me deliver vaginally,
otherwise they would strongly recommend C-section. I
was told that I would have to have epidural and deliver
in operating room, just in case something went wrong.
At the end there was not enough time to give me
epidural. I asked for it, but before everything was
ready baby A started to push herself out, so the
doctors decided go without epidural and I was happy for
it after all.Babies were 35 weeks and 5 days old and
were 5 lb 3 oz and 4 lb 12 oz. They didn't have to go
to NICU.Personally, if one of my babies would be breech
I probably wouldn't have enough courage to go for
vaginal delivery. I guess I would be too scared that
something would go wrong.
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Topic: Housework
Is anyone having issues with their partner about division of
houusehold labour?
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7. twinpeakstwins says...
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7/17/2013 6:31 am
Just found this information on a book by Dr. Joshua
Coleman. He spoke to our group a couple of years ago.
There is a nice short YouTube video too. The Lazy
Husband: Reviews | Dr. Joshua
Colemanwww.drjoshuacoleman.com/.../lazy-husb...READ
EXCERPT VISIT "The Lazy Husband" is the most useful
book on family life I have everread, full of practical
examples on how to change things for the better.It
should be a part of every course on marriage and the
family."Barbara Bergmann,Professor Emerita of
EconomicsAmerican University and the University of
Maryland"Joshua Coleman's The Lazy Husband is
absolutely thebest book on the subject to come out in
over a decade.Drawing on poignant and often humorous
examples fromhis therapeutic practice, Coleman offers
practicaladvice for women and men that can turn
troubledmarriages into healthy partnerships. This is
the bestHOW-TO book on the market for parents who want
to solvethe problems that plague modern
marriages."Scott Coltrane, Ph.D.Dean at the University
of Arts and SciencesUniversity of OregonAuthor, Family
Man: Fatherhood, Housework, and Gender Equity"Before
becoming parents, many simply do not appreciate how
importantthe division of household labor is to couple
and family well being.Enabling parents to successfully
navigate this challenging terrain iswhat Joshua
Coleman's insightful Lazy Husbands is all about.
Ienthusiastically recommend the book to all who want to
improve theirfamily lives. "Professor Jay
Belsky,Director, Institute for the Study of
Children,Families and Social Issues, Birkbeck
University of LondonAuthor of "The Transition to
Parenthood: How a First Child Changes a
Marriage.""Coleman, the father of three and a
practicing psychotherapist, offerscoherent but humane
advice for fed-up femmes feeling less fatale andmore
like indentured household drudges, depressed,
overwhelmed, andmartyred. Coleman sensibly presents his
suggestions in clear,unemotional terms that the reader
can use verbatim. Among topicsaddressed: fairness, how
to spot deliberate male incompetence, andwhether the
fact that you make more money liberates you from
diaperduty. Coleman also does not shy away from those
ugly marital truths thatthe phrase "happily ever after"
never mentions: power, money, controland the fact that
raising those blessed events — kids — can numb
yourmind on occasion. Coleman is particularly good at
addressing theproblems of living with an angry spouse
and how people's childhoods caninfluence their
parenting."USA Today"…we highly recommend The Lazy
Husband. This is not a male-bashing book.It reads more
like a crash course in marriage….His book is a fast
read, full of thekind of "ah-ah! moments readers will
appreciate and remember."The Oakland Tribune- See more
at:
http://www.drjoshuacoleman.com/books/lazy-husband/lazy-husband-reviews/#sthash.qvx3J7KS.dpuf
Email author: twinpeakstwins@yahoo.com
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