[House] San Francisco Parents of Multiples SFPOM General Discussion forum digest - 12/15/2011

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San Francisco Parents of Multiples SFPOM General Discussion 12/14/2011
10:17 am - 12/15/2011

1. Holiday Party Fundraiser (twinpeakstwins)
2. Question about background check for nanny candidate (anonymous)
3. Re: [sfpom_general] Question about background check for...
(susanrickard)
4. My 16 month old twins don't seem to like each other at ...
(anonymous)
5. Comment: Palo Alto Pediatricians (nataliasha2004)
6. Comment: NTR: New Window Replacement (tavams)
7. Comment: Feeling guilty about not treating the... (nataliasha2004)
8. Comment: Feeling guilty about not treating the... (Sandpiper)

1. Holiday Party Fundraiser
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twinpeakstwins - 12/14/2011 3:05 pm

 We raised a total of $80 for the SFPOM Club.Thank you
 to the families that came out in support.

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Email author: twinpeakstwins at yahoo.com
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2. Question about background check for nanny candidate
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anonymous - 12/14/2011 2:32 pm

 I found a fantastic nanny candidate for my children,
 and immediately fell in love. I mean this woman swept
 me off my feet. I loved her and thought she would be
 an incredible addition to our family. I had been very
 frustrated with the process of searching for a nanny,
 and found like I had finally found the right fit for
 our family. All was going along swimmingly until I
 notified the woman that I wanted to run a background
 check. She said that in her 25 years of experience, no
 family had ever asked for a background check. She said
 she had always been able to provide excellent
 references and people trusted those references. She
 also brought two printed reports - the first was from
 the City of SF stating that she had a clean record. 
 The second was from Corte Madera stating the same
 thing. She wanted us to use these reports in lieu of a
 background check. I thanked her for the information,
 but also requested her SSN so I could run my own
 background check. She agreed to give it to me (with
 some other requested documentation) the following day. 
 When I went to get the mail the following day, there
 was a letter in my mailbox stating that she felt like I
 did not trust her by asking for her SSN to run a
 background check. She didn't understand why the two
 reports she provided were not enough, and said that we
 obviously didn't trust her so she wouldn't be working
 for us. Obviously this is a huge red flag to me. I
 struggule to understand why anyone would not want
 submit to a background check if they didn't have
 anything to hide. And I also can't believe that none
 of the families she worked for previously really didn't
 ask her for a background check. Needless to say, I
 don't think we will be working together. But it got me
 thinking/wondering... I just always assumed that a
 background check was a standard requirement for most
 families when hiring a caregiver/nanny for their
 children. Is this something that not everyone does? 
 Secondly, has anyone ever heard of these types of
 reports that this woman provided to me - where a City
 states that a citizen has a clean record? It was the
 first time I ever heard of anything like this and
 didn't know if it was standard. I just want to be
 prepared as I start over YET AGAIN to find a nanny. 
 This process is much more frustrating than I thought it
 would be!! Thank you in advance for any
 thoughts/insight!

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nanny candidate"

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 3. susanrickard says...
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 12/14/2011 3:24 pm
 
 For what it is worth, I think you did the right thing
 and I think that anyfuture employee that objects to a
 background check is most likely hidingsomething and/or
 there is something questionable in their
 background.Regardless, you are well within your right
 to request a background checkfor the person that will
 be caring for your children. It is a
 reasonablerequest.I personally have not done background
 checks as I have relied upon thereferences that come
 exclusively from this group or close friends when Ihire
 my nannies or babysitters. However, I know many people
 who do themand my brother hires his nannies through an
 agency and one of their sellingpoints is that they do
 thorough background checks.Additionally, I am an
 attorney and many of my clients do background checkson
 employment candidates, so it is extremely common
 especially inCalifornia. If they do not do paid
 background checks, they at least do thecursory google
 and Facebook check of their candidate prior to
 hiring.As for the reports that were provided to you, I
 have not heard ofthe reports and I would not trust a
 report that you did not generateyourself and/or did not
 come from the San Francisco Police Department.It seems
 as though your request for a background check was a
 blessing indisguise.Best of luck in your search.On Wed,
 Dec 14, 2011 at 2:34 PM, Anonymous wrote: Anonymous
 posted: I found a fantastic nanny candidate for my
 children, and immediately fell in love. I mean this
 woman swept me off my feet. I loved her and thought
 she would be an incredible addition to our family. I
 had been very frustrated with the process of searching
 for a nanny, and found like I had finally found the
 right fit for our family. All was going along
 swimmingly until I notified the woman that I wanted to
 run a background check. She said that in her 25 years
 of experience, no family had ever asked for a
 background check. She said she had always been able to
 provide excellent references and people trusted those
 references. She also brought two printed reports - the
 first was from the City of SF stating that she had a
 clean record. The second was from Corte Madera stating
 the same thing. She wanted us to use these reports in
 lieu of a background check. I thanked her for the
 information, but also requested her SSN so I could run
 my own background check. She agreed to give it to me
 (with some other requested documentation) the following
 day. When I went to get the mail the following day,
 there was a letter in my mailbox stating that she felt
 like I did not trust her by asking for her SSN to run a
 background check. She didn't understand why the two
 reports she provided were not enough, and said that we
 obviously didn't trust her so she wouldn't be working
 for us. Obviously this is a huge red flag to me. I
 struggule to understand why anyone would not want
 submit to a background check if they didn't have
 anything to hide. And I also can't believe that none
 of the families she worked for previously really didn't
 ask her for a background check. Needless to say, I
 don't think we will be working together. But it got me
 thinking/wondering... I just always assumed that a
 background check was a standard requirement for most
 families when hiring a caregiver/nanny for their
 children. Is this something that not everyone does? 
 Secondly, has anyone ever heard of these types of
 reports that this woman provided to me - where a City
 states that a citizen has a clean record? It was the
 first time I ever heard of anything like this and
 didn't know if it was standard. I just want to be
 prepared as I start over YET AGAIN to find a nanny. 
 This process is much more frustrating than I thought it
 would be!! Thank you in advance for any
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my daughter is much
 more serious and industrious. I know its very early,
 but i am concerned that this is an early sign that they
 just wont get along very well as older children or
 adults.Am i way off track? I know things change as the
 babies grow, but will their relationship do a 180 at
 some point? If your babies behaved similarly at this
 age but things changed as they grew older, would like
 to hear your story.thanks!

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Topic: Palo Alto Pediatricians

 We just moved from the city to Palo Alto. Does anyone have
 any recommendations of...

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 5. nataliasha2004 says...
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 12/14/2011 12:30 pm
 
 While I can't speak to that specifically, I know
 there's a similar club in that area - maybe that can be
 of use: http://mppom.org/Good luck!
 Email author: nataliasha2004 at yahoo.com
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Topic: NTR: New Window Replacement

 Hello, anyone have a reasonably priced person that can
 install windows that you can...

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 6. tavams says...
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 12/14/2011 9:20 pm
 
 We used Mark Woolrich for tons on stuff on our 1898
 house and he was fantastic, on-time, clean, reasonable
 and great around kids/babies. He can source the
 windows and help with ideas as well. His number is
 310-706-1476.TavaCanter
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