[House] San Francisco Parents of Multiples SFPOM General Discussion forum digest - 12/14/2012

Fri Dec 14 02:15:07 PST 2012

San Francisco Parents of Multiples SFPOM General Discussion 12/13/2012
10:13 am - 12/14/2012

1. Comment: When both babies cry..... (stefaniesada)
2. Re:When both babies cry..... (dm_sonora)
3. Comment: transitioning to toddler beds (katyperez)
4. Comment: How to gently give feedback to my mom... (katyperez)
Topic: When both babies cry.....

 What advice can anyone give about how to soothe the twins
 when they are both crying...

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 1. stefaniesada says...
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 12/13/2012 2:58 pm

 It will get better. In the meantime, try putting them
 in two bouncy chairs, setting them in front of you as
 you sit on a chair or couch, and rocking them
 simultaneously with your feet as you say something
 soothing (shushing, humming, singing, whatever feels
 right) might help. I can't tell you how often our
 girls went to sleep this way. Sometimes it takes a few
 minutes, but it really does work well.Swaddling worked
 really well for our one girl who was pretty colicky--I
 thought I was in hell at the time, although in
 retrospect I realize that as colick goes, it wasn't all
 that bad.I also agree with the writers who note that
 they are likely to start taking turns with the real
 meltdowns. Best of luck to you!
 Email author: stefaniesada at gmail.com
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 2. dm_sonora says...
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 12/13/2012 4:27 pm

 I totally feel your pain. It doesn't seem fair at all
 to mom or babies- one mom and two infants????The infant
 stage was the most overwhelming for me. I agree it was
 like Sophie's Choice, every day. Choosing who to care
 for and who to ignore was an impossible for me. It gets
 A LOT EASIER when they have more head control, can
 walk, can talk, etc. In my experience. Hang in there,
 you have my support.I also agree that crying,
 especially if they get to see you and hear you, is not
 going to scar anyone. I still struggle with trying to
 make things equal emotionally and attention-wise for
 them. My friend told me, "Just accept it: You are going
 to love them differently in different ways and that's
 OK." -Darca
 Email author: darca at hub3.net
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Topic: transitioning to toddler beds

 dear veteran mamas! any words of wisdom? :)

 holiday travel is upon us, and one...

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 3. katyperez says...
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 12/13/2012 8:41 am

 Hi - I can't give much advice on the 'transition'
 aspect, other than your kids may surprise you! We were
 concerned that it was going to be a big deal to
 transition from cribs to their toddler beds and it was
 really not - they were actually super excited with
 their little beds. Unfortunately, we did have problems
 with them rolling out of the toddler beds, and so we
 did end up buying rails to use (which I am actually
 selling in the classifieds right now ;-)). The main
 comment I wanted to make though, is even though only
 one may be the climber, they may influence the other
 one. We had one that was definitely the climber, but
 one night walked in and found her pushing and pulling
 to assist her sister into climbing out as well.
 Email author: ktloomis25 at aol.com
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Topic: How to gently give feedback to my mom about child
care style?

 Let me first start by saying how lucky I am to have family
 close by that are happy...

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 4. katyperez says...
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 12/13/2012 9:02 am

 If it is bothering you, I say you should at least
 mention something to her about it, otherwise I could
 see it building and then becoming a bigger issue than
 what it really is/started out as. Maybe focus on
 safety related concerns, like the placement on the
 floor example.However, I know with my own mom, although
 she LOVES my girls and always has; she is not much of a
 'baby' person. And when they were smaller (under 1)
 she didn't directly interact with them as much as say
 my mother-in-law who just can't get enough of them
 (like how you described your nanny).Now that they are 3
 1/2, she interacts and plays with them way more. But
 she still does it on her own terms; she directs what
 she wants to do with them, versus my MIL will do
 whatever the girls want. I think part of it is comfort
 level, but also just personality differences.
 Email author: ktloomis25 at aol.com
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