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San Francisco Parents of Multiples SFPOM General Discussion 3/8/2012
10:15 am - 3/9/2012
1. Umbrella stroller recommendations (ccranes)
2. Plane travel at 25/26 weeks (sfteach)
3. Comment: Plane travel at 25/26 weeks (HollyBuchanan)
4. 24-hour nurse recommendation (eeewww)
5. Comment: Nanny paid days off? (sfbamob)
6. Comment: Nanny paid days off? (hpearl)
7. Comment: Nanny paid days off? (virginia335)
8. Comment: Nanny paid days off? (hilaryandwendy)
9. Comment: Nanny paid days off? (leslie_g)
10. Comment: Help Wanted: New Advertising Coordinator... (katyperez)
11. Comment: 26 weeks pregnant & on Bed Rest (carogamse)
12. Comment: 26 weeks pregnant others just say "a reasonable number".
You
can simply raise it if it becomes an issue, which I
doubt it will. You can also talk to your nanny about
trying to coordinate so one of her/his vacation weeks
overlaps with one of yours. This is often easy as many
nannies like to take some time off during Christmas,
when many families are on vacation too.I hope this
helps.
Email author: cornmob at gmail.com
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6. hpearl says...
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3/8/2012 9:19 am
Thanks, this is helpful.
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7. virginia335 says...
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3/8/2012 9:35 am
Also the city of San Francisco requires you pay
sick-time for hourly employees based on how many hours
they work.
Email author: virginia at bbcreativesf.com
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8. hilaryandwendy says...
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3/8/2012 11:47 am
I'm a big fan of trying to be as fair as possible.
Here's what we do:1. 5 sick/personal days that are use
it or lose it on an annual basis;2. Two weeks paid
vacation, one week of which must be taken when we are
on vacation. As we usually take 3-4 weeks of vacation,
this works out that he gets 3-4 weeks of vacation plus
his week off (he goes to Burning Man). Although this
seems like a lot, the way I look at it, if my boss
takes three weeks of vacation, I still get paid. We do
ask him when we're on vacation to take us to the
airport and pick us up, come by and run laundry once
while we're out, move the car for street cleaning,
etc.3. We give 6-8 major days off (Christmas, T-giving,
MLK Day, etc.)This adds up to a lot, but if you have a
nanny you like and anticipate/hope having for the
long-term, I think a fair relationship is really
important. He's happy to stay late when he can and move
things around, and I think a lot of that is because he
feels we try to treat him fairly. On the other hand,
I'm not able to give salary increases every year
(really, any year) as long as I provide this framework,
and I made that clear (though as our kids get older,
the work gets saner, so in some level keeping this
level for years probably benefits him slightly more
over the long run). Good luck!Hilary
Email author: hilaryandwendy at gmail.com
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9. leslie_g says...
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3/8/2012 3:47 pm
Hi -- Here is what I have learned from my own
experience & others (nanny agencies, SFPOM Club &
TVMOTC members).The hourly range for a nanny in this
area varies from $18/hr to $24/hr. It is standard that
you offer them 2 weeks of Paid Time Off (PTO) in
addition to standard holidays. This PTO can be used by
the nanny however they choose -- for sick days or
vacation. You are responsible to pay for any time that
is not used -- or ensure they take the days off. By
California law, this type of an employee should receive
time & a half for hours over 45 hours per week. A
holiday bonus is also very standard (but optional) &
suggested to be 1 weeks salary. The full-time nannies
count on full weeks, so if you do not need them, you
still are expected to pay them -- I have on occasion
been able to coordinate that she takes a PTO day at the
same time. It might be different for a part-time nanny
-- I am not sure!In terms of the extra duties, they
vary greatly between nannies. I used a nanny agency to
find mine -- the applicant forms included sheets where
they specified the extra duties they were willing to
take on -- the range was amazing (from none to will
shop, cook all your meals, do the whole families
laundry, clean your house & take care of the dog!).
Most did say they would pick up after the kids &
prepare simple meals for them.Here are more specifics
on my personal experience. I work full time, outside
of the house M-Th & then from home on Fridays. My b/g
twins are 28 months now.Nanny Search - It sounds like
you have found a nanny already -- congrats for finding
someone who you like. For anyone who is still looking
here is my advice: I reviewed numerous resumes,
interviewed several via phone, 4 in person & then had 2
do trial days (believe it or not, one fell asleep on
the couch while I was there -- said she was sick. At
lunch time, she assumed she could help herself &
commented that she had other beverage preferences -- I
was shocked! Am paying her & also expected to feed her
& feed her what SHE wants?!). I actually had my top
candidate on a trial 2 week period before we made it
official. I would not recommend paying nanny agency
fees until you are satisfied. Personalities are very
important -- they will influence your children's
personalities & they impact the vibe of the household
while they are there! Our nanny started when our twins
were 3.5 months. Both my husband & I had a very good
feeling about her initially. We were living with my
mom at the time as we re-located to the east bay, so
she was in & out and able to be my initial eyes & ears
which gave me comfort. I knew it was right when our
nanny asked to take them out for a walk down the street
in the snap & go and I felt ok (vs. panic) when she
walked out the door with my two babies!Salary &
Holidays - We offered her $19 / hr to start. After one
year, we increased it to $20 / hr. In terms of set
holidays, my company alternates President's Day &
Martin Luther King Day each year -- so I ensured that
the standard holidays that we would use would be my
companies. I provide them to her for the upcoming year
when they are available. In terms of payments -- nanny
wages & taxes can be quite complicated. I chose at
least for the first year with returning to work, to not
take that responsibility on. We use a company to
manage that for us -- they withdraw from my acct &
direct deposit into her account. Although there are
fees, they are worth it for me, so I plan to continue
using the service. If you are interested the company
we are using is breedlove.com. Extra Duties - She does
light housekeeping & cooks very simple meals (scrambled
eggs, French toast, mac & cheese with carrots & peas,
etc.). I have occasionally given her recipes to
prepare (some successful & some not). She sweeps the
kitchen area every other day & washes/folds/puts away
the kids laundry/bedding as needed. I don't do the
kids laundry over the weekend unless urgent needed -- I
let her take care of it when she comes in. She has
offered to do some of my/my husband's laundry as well,
but we have not taken her up on that. In addition, she
wipes down the counters & is constantly organizing the
kids toys! (You sure can see a difference on the days
she is not there.) She eats her lunch while the kids
are asleep & after things are "in order", will surf the
web on her laptop (20-30 mins). She takes the kids to
storytime at the library 3 times a week & to the park
on other days. I do not pay for her gasoline. I hope
this answered your questions -- if not, or if you have
more, just let me know!- Leslie
Email author: les_9 at yahoo.com
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Topic: Help Wanted: New Advertising Coordinator for SFPOM
Newsletter, Multiplicity, Needed
Hello fellow Parents of Multiples --
Looking for a way to be more involved in the...
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10. katyperez says...
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3/8/2012 12:13 pm
The position has been filled. Thank you!
Email author: ktloomis25 at aol.com
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Topic: 26 weeks pregnant & on Bed Rest
I was just put on bed rest yesterday and am trying to keep
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