[House] What I got from the STEP _Parenting young children_ book
Ruth Anne
raladue at digitalkingdom.org
Tue Dec 10 15:01:11 PST 2013
* Less "no," more alternatives.
* Use reflective listening and I-Messages
* Use more encouragement, less praise. Praise is a reward,
encouragement is a gift.
http://positiveparenting.com/the-language-of-encouragement/
* Positive, respectful ways to dicipline:
-Distract the child
-Ignore misbehaviour
-Structure the environment
-Control the situation, not the child
-Involve the child
-Plan time for loving
-Let go
-Increase your consistency
-Notice positive behaviour
-Excuse the child with a time out
o Time outs are for tantrums, biting/hitting, constant
interruptions, and jumping/climbing on inappropriate furniture
o Time outs are one minute per year of age.
o I put the gate up in the play space and set a timer. Time out is over
when the timer goes off. Playing is ok - shows that the child has
regained control (as an aside, we need to find a way to "lock" the door
to the garage when we do this.)
* Set limits and give choices.
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