[House] What I got from the STEP _Parenting young children_ book

[Robin Lee Powell]

On Tue, Dec 10, 2013 at 03:01:11PM -0800, Ruth Anne wrote:
> * Less "no," more alternatives.
> 
> * Use reflective listening and I-Messages
> 
> * Use more encouragement, less praise. Praise is a reward,
>   encouragement is a gift.
> 
>   http://positiveparenting.com/the-language-of-encouragement/

Apparently our books read each other.  :D

> * Positive, respectful ways to dicipline:
> 
>   -Distract the child
>   -Ignore misbehaviour

Specifically for things you decide aren't really important, or what?

>   -Structure the environment
>   -Control the situation, not the child
>   -Involve the child
>   -Plan time for loving

Can you expand on those last two?

>   -Let go
>   -Increase your consistency
>   -Notice positive behaviour
>   -Excuse the child with a time out
>    o Time outs are for tantrums, biting/hitting, constant
>      interruptions, and jumping/climbing on inappropriate furniture
>    o Time outs are one minute per year of age.
>    o I put the gate up in the play space and set a timer. Time out is over
>      when the timer goes off. Playing is ok - shows that the child has
>      regained control (as an aside, we need to find a way to "lock" the door
>      to the garage when we do this.)
> 
> * Set limits and give choices.

Unfortunately, this doesn't exist as an ebook.  Do you think I'd get
a lot of out of trying to read the paper version?, or should I just
get it from you as we go?

-Robin

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