[House] San Francisco Parents of Multiples SFPOM General Discussion forum digest - 6/29/2015

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San Francisco Parents of Multiples SFPOM General Discussion 6/28/2015
9:16 am - 6/29/2015

1. Comment: Setting Schedule with your Day Care Provider (Raneem)
2. Comment: Setting Schedule with your Day Care Provider (cld2011)
Topic: Setting Schedule with your Day Care Provider

 I am a first time mom and just started my 4 month old twins
 in day care yesterday...

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 1. Raneem says...
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 6/28/2015 6:57 pm
 
 Hi,In my experience, try to be flexible at the daycare
 for some things.When they started at the daycare they
 napped once in the morning and once in the afternoon (I
 did not mind what time as long as they do not nap after
 3:00pm and not longer than 1h30 each nap). I like them
 to be independent of each other! I hope mums of twins
 got the chance to read this inspiring book: "Twins and
 multiple births".My babies are now 16 months and they
 have been napping once at the daycare, so when they
 come home they are exhausted. I pick them up at 4:00pm,
 feed them at 5:00pm and put them to sleep at 6:00pm. I
 am looking after them alone when I bring them from the
 daycare. It gets easier as they start to move.I write
 their feeding schedule and I am not crazy if they do
 not do things at the right time or together. Here is my
 schedule if you are interested for when your babies
 cross 9 months or later:8:45 milk9:00 fruit11:30 lunch 
 fruit1:30 milk2:00 fruit or desert I prepareat home
 5:00 dinnerHope this helps. I am also interested to
 read what other mums will write.Best of luck,
 Email author: rpentney at gmail.com
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 2. cld2011 says...
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 6/28/2015 8:51 pm
 
 Hi Denise:I don't have experience with day care (either
 with my singleton or my twins who I think are about the
 same age as yours), but I do have a nanny, so I do deal
 with communicating with a 3rd party care provider. 
 Obviously, with a day care you need to be mindful of
 the fact that they have to care for all kids, but what
 you are asking your provider to do is something that I
 would imagine would save her time, not further tax it. 
 I would recommend you sit down with her and ask about
 her experience with twins, and if she says she hasn't
 dealt with them or only had infrequent contact with
 twins, explain how important it is to keep twins on a
 schedule, and that by necessity they are used to being
 woken up if their twin had gotten up early to feed etc.
 and that it isn't disruptive or a big deal to do that. 
 And I would also emphasize how important the schedule
 is for you to be able to manage as a single mom AND to
 be able to see the babies at night for quality time
 before they go to bed. That being said, it may be that
 you will need to be flexible because it is a group care
 situation, but as you described it, it sounds like a
 provider who is treating (with all best intentions!)
 your twins as singletons, so I think you just need to
 give her background on they where's and why's of twin
 schedules. Also keep in mind you may have to have the
 convo a few times. Very hard for some folks to get
 past the instinct not to wake a sleeping baby etc. My
 mom (who raised 5 kids) has a HUGE problem with this
 when she cares for my girls. I was surprised how much
 of a stumbling block for her. Partly, I think it is
 cultural for her (she has said as much), but
 nonetheless, it is hard for her to understand, and only
 now, after multiple conversations re same are we
 starting to reach an understanding on the girls
 schedule and its importance in keeping everything
 smoothly moving forward.
 Email author: claudia.durbin at gmail.com
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