[House] San Francisco Parents of Multiples SFPOM General Discussion forum digest - 4/25/2012
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San Francisco Parents of Multiples SFPOM General Discussion 4/24/2012
9:16 am - 4/25/2012
1. Reminder: How Multiples Affect Marriage: 5 Steps...
(twinpeakstwins)
2. Announcing: Your Children are Listening: Nine Messages ...
(twinpeakstwins)
3. 2 week trip to Europe w/ 13 mo olds - stroller/carriers...
(nodelmonkey)
4. Sienna vs. Pilot - can't decide which will be better - ...
(anonymous)
5. RE: [sfpom_general] Sienna vs. Pilot - can't decide...
(rockchalk90)
6. Re: [sfpom_general] Sienna vs. Pilot - can't decide... (mcharap)
7. Re: [sfpom_general] Reminder: Education and Protection...
(urmantwins)
8. Re: [sfpom_general] Reminder: Education and Protection...
(twinpeakstwins)
9. Re: [sfpom_general] Reminder: Education and Protection...
(twinpeakstwins)
10. Re: [sfpom_general] Reminder: Education and Protection...
(urmantwins)
1. Reminder: How Multiples Affect Marriage: 5 Steps to
Resolving Conflict and Preserving (or Restoring) Intimacy
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twinpeakstwins - 4/24/2012 10:20 pm
Events are only 7 - 8:30 and we have a nice dinner if
you can make it earlier at 6:30. Come out and meet
fellow members and learn a lot of great information.
Your participation will only make our group
stronger.Multiples can place a huge amount of stress on
marriage. Most studies show that marital satisfaction
starts to plummet with the arrival of the first child.
With multiples it can plummet even more! Yet, there are
many things that couples can do to communicate
productively and to resolve conflict.In this workshop
we'll discuss the most effective strategies to maintain
or restore intimacy, communicate productively, and
strengthen your marriage.We'll talk about:* Common
gender differences around sex and intimacy* Best and
worst ways to resolve conflict* How to communicate in a
way that actually gets you what you want* Best ways to
resolve differences around parenting* How to know
what's normal conflict and when your marriage is in
trouble.Dr. Coleman is a psychologist in private
practice in SF and Oakland, and is Co-Chair of the
Council on Contemporary Families. He has been a
frequent guest on the Today Show, NPR, and The BBC,and
has also been featured on Sesame Street, 20/20, Good
Morning America, America Online Coaches, PBS Life Part
2, and numerous news programs for FOX, ABC, CNN, and
NBC television. His advice has appeared in The New York
Times, The Times of London, Fortune, Newsweek, The
Chicago Tribune, Slate, Psychology Today, U.S. World
and News Report, Parenting Magazine and many others. He
has presented seminars at Harvard and UC Berkeley for
faculty and students and blogs on parent-adult child
relationships for the UC Berkeley publication Greater
Good Magazine and has blogged for the Huffington Post
and Psychology Today.He is the author of numerous
articles and chapters and has written four books: The
Marriage Makeover: Finding Happiness in Imperfect
Harmony (St. Martin's Press); The Lazy Husband: How to
Get Men to Do More Parenting and Housework (St.
Martin's Press); When Parents Hurt: Compassionate
Strategies When You and Your Grown Child Don't Get
Along (HarperCollins); and Married with Twins: Life,
Love and the Pursuit of Marital Harmony. His books have
been translated into Chinese, Croatian, and Korean, and
are also available in the U.S., U.K., Canada, and
Australia.He is co-editor, along with historian
Stephanie Coontz of the yearly online volume,
Unconventional Wisdom: News You Can Use, a compendium
of noteworthy research on the contemporary family,
gender, sexuality, poverty, and work-family issues.
Visit him on the web at www.drjoshuacoleman.comEvent
Details & RSVP---------------------- What: How
Multiples Affect Marriage: 5 Steps to Resolving
Conflict and Preserving (or Restoring) Intimacy Who:
San Francisco Parents of Multiples When: Tue May 15,
2012, 6:30-8:30 pm PDT Where: Presidio Sports Basement
610 Old Mason Street/ Chrissy Field RSVP:
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Marriage: 5 Steps to
Resolving Conflict and Preserving (or Restoring) Intimacy"
Email author: twinpeakstwins at yahoo.com
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2. Announcing: Your Children are Listening: Nine Messages They
Need to Hear From You
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twinpeakstwins - 4/24/2012 10:15 pm
Events are only 7 - 8:30 and we have a nice dinner if
you can make it earlier at 6:30. Come out and meet
fellow members and learn a lot of great information.
Your participation will only make our group
stronger.Presented by Dr. Jim TaylorBased on his most
recent parenting book of the same name, this workshop
focuses on the essential that early messages from
parents has on children's development. Dr. Taylor
explores why messages are important, how messages are
conveyed, and what "message blockers" prevent messages
from parents from getting through to children. He will
then describe nine messages that children absolutely
must get to ensure that they develop into value-driven,
happy, successful, contributing people. Dr. Taylor
places special emphasis on practical strategies, such
as catchphrases, rituals and routines, and activities,
that parents can use to convey healthy messages to
their children.Jim Taylor, Ph.D., Psychology, has
consulted with young people, parents, and educators for
more than 25 years. He has been a speaker at numerous
elementary and secondary schools, youth-sports
programs, and performing-arts organizations around the
country.Jim is the author of Positive Pushing: How to
Raise a Successful and Happy Child and Your Children
are Under Attack: How Popular Culture is Destroying
Your Kids' Values, and How You Can Protect Them. His
latest book is Your Children are Listening: Nine
Messages They Need to Hear from You. He writes Prime
Family Alert!, a bi-monthly e-newsletter and blogs on
parenting for psychologytoday.com. Jim lives north of
San Francisco with his wife, Sarah, and their
daughters, Catie and Gracie.Jim can be followed on
Facebook and Twitter. You can view Jim's interviews and
video newsletters on his YouTube channel. To learn
more, visit www.drjimtaylor.com.Event Details &
RSVP---------------------- What: Your Children are
Listening: Nine Messages They Need to Hear From You
Who: San Francisco Parents of Multiples When: Tue May
1, 2012, 6:30-8:30 pm PDT Where: Presidio Sports
Basement 610 Old Mason Street/ Chrissy Field
RSVP:
http://www.bigtent.com/home/calendar/event/68490497?md=NjA3Nzg0MjI=
Send comment to:
With subject line: "Ref#68490515 - Announcing: Your Children are
Listening: Nine Messages They
Need to Hear From You"
Email author: twinpeakstwins at yahoo.com
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3. 2 week trip to Europe w/ 13 mo olds - stroller/carriers plus
other packing tips?
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nodelmonkey - 4/24/2012 3:02 pm
My husband and I are headed to Europe with our twins
who will be 13 months at time of trip. We are debating
whether we should take a stroller or not. So far,
we've traveled only domestically with them and
generally check our City Select under the plane and
carry babes on the plane in our infant carriers. We'd
love to avoid taking a stroller if possible but I'm
curious if we're going to want one to be a little more
mobile in terms of naps (our kids can nap in stroller
if we're out and about) and also so we're not carrying
them all the time everywhere. I'm going to see if
renting strollers there is an option but am thinking it
might be best to have our own with us. Just debating
if lugging it around is feasible also - we'll probably
have tiny car there to get around in. Has anyone done a
similar trip with your babes before and have any advice
on what worked in terms of stroller/carrier/etc.?
We're still in front carriers also and am told we may
wish to switch to backpack carriers for the trip which
might make it more feasible to carry them around in
(though not sure if napping in them is doable or not).
We also thought about getting some cheap umbrella
strollers to make travel less bulky. We have some time
between now and then to practice and test new ideas
out. Any other tips or ideas for our trip would be
appreciated!
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other packing tips?"
Email author: heathernodelman at gmail.com
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4. Sienna vs. Pilot - can't decide which will be better - three
young kids
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anonymous - 4/24/2012 10:33 am
My husband and I are debating between the Sienna and
the Pilot. I lean towards the Pilot I think and he
seems to lean slightly toward the Sienna. Neither are
really desirable (big cars, not particularly
attractive, poor gas mileage), but with a 2 year old
and twins coming, here we are.As I see it:Pilot
Pros-variety of car seat configurations all with
latches (three across middle row, two in middle in any
position and one in third row)-ability to reach in and
buckle in two year old in third row from side of
car-slightly shorter than Sienna-better Tahoe car
(albeit that trip will be rare)Pilot Cons-husband hates
the way it looks-not as nice inside as Sienna-no
sliding doors-cannot walk through to third rowSienna
Pros-auto sliding doors-ability to walk through to
third row if center of second row is removed-nice
interior finishesSienna Cons-I think I would have to
get all the way in the car to buckle 2 year old in
third row (I'm short)-longer car than Pilot-It's a
minivan :)-Not as good of a Tahoe car (rare trip like I
said)We looked at other three row cars that were
smaller, but since our older child is 2 and is
obviously not yet in a booster, most other third rows
won't work. Our garage should fit either car, so that's
good. I just can't decide which is better for us.Have
you looked at both? Any feedback?Thanks.
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which will be better - three
young kids"
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5. rockchalk90 says...
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4/24/2012 10:43 am
We LOVE LOVE our pilot and have had our twins and their
playdate friends in the pilot as well as a 2nd family
because of the 3rd row. I can't compare to a mini van
since I have never had one. We also go to Tahoe every
weekend since kids are on ski team and the pilot is
great in the snow. From: no_reply at lists.bigtent.com To:
rockchalk90 at hotmail.com Subject: [sfpom_general] Sienna
vs. Pilot - can't decide which will be better - three
young kids - Ref#68472743 Date: Tue, 24 Apr 2012
10:35:01 -0700 Anonymous posted: My husband and I are
debating between the Sienna and the Pilot. I lean
towards the Pilot I think and he seems to lean slightly
toward the Sienna. Neither are really desirable (big
cars, not particularly attractive, poor gas mileage),
but with a 2 year old and twins coming, here we are. As
I see it: Pilot Pros -variety of car seat
configurations all with latches (three across middle
row, two in middle in any position and one in third
row) -ability to reach in and buckle in two year old in
third row from side of car -slightly shorter than
Sienna -better Tahoe car (albeit that trip will be
rare) Pilot Cons -husband hates the way it looks -not
as nice inside as Sienna -no sliding doors -cannot walk
through to third row Sienna Pros -auto sliding doors
-ability to walk through to third row if center of
second row is removed -nice interior finishes Sienna
Cons -I think I would have to get all the way in the
car to buckle 2 year old in third row (I'm short)
-longer car than Pilot -It's a minivan :) -Not as good
of a Tahoe car (rare trip like I said) We looked at
other three row cars that were smaller, but since our
older child is 2 and is obviously not yet in a booster,
most other third rows won't work. Our garage should fit
either car, so that's good. I just can't decide which
is better for us. Have you looked at both? Any
feedback? Thanks. Add your comments online:
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6. mcharap says...
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4/24/2012 10:49 am
We love our Sienna. It's a great Tahoe car (have gone a
lot) & the sliding doors are invaluable. My step sister
w/ a Pilot is extremely envious of our Sienna. The
trunk space is incomparable. Even when we have the
third row up, the trunk is huge. Not so w/ the
Pilot.MarcySent from my iPhoneOn Apr 24, 2012, at 10:35
AM, Anonymous wrote: Anonymous posted: My husband and
I are debating between the Sienna and the Pilot. I lean
towards the Pilot I think and he seems to lean slightly
toward the Sienna. Neither are really desirable (big
cars, not particularly attractive, poor gas mileage),
but with a 2 year old and twins coming, here we are. As
I see it: Pilot Pros -variety of car seat
configurations all with latches (three across middle
row, two in middle in any position and one in third
row) -ability to reach in and buckle in two year old in
third row from side of car -slightly shorter than
Sienna -better Tahoe car (albeit that trip will be
rare) Pilot Cons -husband hates the way it looks -not
as nice inside as Sienna -no sliding doors -cannot walk
through to third row Sienna Pros -auto sliding doors
-ability to walk through to third row if center of
second row is removed -nice interior finishes Sienna
Cons -I think I would have to get all the way in the
car to buckle 2 year old in third row (I'm short)
-longer car than Pilot -It's a minivan :) -Not as good
of a Tahoe car (rare trip like I said) We looked at
other three row cars that were smaller, but since our
older child is 2 and is obviously not yet in a booster,
most other third rows won't work. Our garage should fit
either car, so that's good. I just can't decide which
is better for us. Have you looked at both? Any
feedback? Thanks. Add your comments online:
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Topic: Reminder: Education and Protection Planning for
Families
Tomorrow, Tuesday Night, April 24th
Presented by Tom O'Brien
(SFPOM member and father...
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7. urmantwins says...
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4/24/2012 12:52 pm
Anyone going to the Speaker Series tonight? I need a
ride from downtown SF.Thanks in advance.Rosetta
_________________ From: James/Joel Alegria-Donaher To:
'San Francisco Parents of Multiples SFPOM General
Discussion' Sent: Monday, April 23, 2012 11:15
AMSubject: [sfpom_general] Reminder: Education and
Protection Planning for Families - Ref#68442619
James/Joel Alegria-Donaher posted:Tomorrow, Tuesday
Night, April 24thPresented by Tom O'Brien(SFPOM member
and father of twins)This complimentary educational
event will provide parents with answers to some of the
most frequent questions they have in regards to saving
for their children's education and protecting their
families with life and disability insurance.â€" What
are my options for saving for college for my twins?â€"
How does my savings choice affect their ability to
qualify for financial aid?â€" How much life insurance
do I really need?â€" What are the different types of
life insurance and which one is right for me?â€" What
would happen if I was unable to work due to a sickness
or injury? Am I adequately covered at work?This
material is being presented by Tom O'Brien of SGC
Financial and Insurance Services. Tom is an SFPOM
member and parent of twins, born January 2012, and
lives in Laurel Heights with his wife Hilarey. He is a
Certified Financial Planner (CFP) and has an MBA from
Thunderbird, the Global School of Management. SGC is an
independently-owned and operated fee-based firm that
has been providing financial advice in the Bay Area
since 1950.Event Details & RSVP----------------------
What: Education and Protection Planning for Families
Who: San Francisco Parents of Multiples When: Tue Apr
24, 2012, 6:30-8:30 pm PDT Where: Presidio Sports
Basement 610 Old Mason Street/ Chrissy Field
RSVP:
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8. twinpeakstwins says...
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4/24/2012 1:24 pm
What time? I pick Joel up at 5:30 at 16th and mission
Bart.
Email author: twinpeakstwins at yahoo.com
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9. twinpeakstwins says...
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4/24/2012 1:25 pm
Can also pick u up in the marina at 6:15 or so if you
can catch the bus that goes to union or chestnut
street.
Email author: twinpeakstwins at yahoo.com
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10. urmantwins says...
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4/24/2012 2:44 pm
Let me figure out which bus goes out there or else I
can meet you at 16th/mission. Thank you so so
much!!!Sent from my iPhoneOn Apr 24, 2012, at 1:27 PM,
James/Joel Alegria-Donaher wrote: James/Joel
Alegria-Donaher commented: Can also pick u up in the
marina at 6:15 or so if you can catch the bus that goes
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