[House] San Francisco Parents of Multiples SFPOM General Discussion forum digest - 1/2/2013

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San Francisco Parents of Multiples SFPOM General Discussion 1/1/2013
10:13 am - 1/2/2013

1. My heart didn't break when I went back to work... (jeccat)
2. Nanny Trust - What to Do (ljsanfran)
3. Full time tibetan nanny with twins experience available
(drshulamit)
4. Comment: Moving one twin to Kaiser while the other... (gatomal)
5. Comment: Moving one twin to Kaiser while the other...
(HollyBuchanan)
6. Comment: Moving one twin to Kaiser while the other... (lborkow)
7. Comment: Crying in the car seat (suzanne659)
8. Comment: Crying in the car seat (HollyBuchanan)
9. Comment: Crying in the car seat (ked21880)
10. Comment: Baby stomping only right foot for a week...
(HollyBuchanan)
11. Comment: Electing to supplement (suzanne659)
12. Comment: Looking for Full Time Nanny for Feburary... (jeccat)
13. Comment: Looking for Full Time Nanny for Feburary... (jeccat)

1. My heart didn't break when I went back to work... Anyone
else?
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jeccat - 1/1/2013 11:27 pm

 Hello moms-- I have seen so many postings by women who
 feel that their hearts break at the thought of going
 back to work after their maternity leave. This post is
 my attempt to find other moms who felt the way I did,
 and NOT to judge anyone who felt sad to return to
 work!I spent 20.5 weeks at home with my twins after
 they were born. We went for long walks, met friends in
 cafes, sang songs, we went to baby boot camp and preggo
 Pilates. They smiled and laughed and cooed and grew
 like weeds. I spent some part of every day adoring
 them.I also learned how to pee while holding a
 screaming baby (while the other one screamed from the
 nursery, natch), spent entire days wearing nothing but
 spit up-stained pajama pants and a deeply funky cotton
 nursing bra, and decided I might as well just hang up
 my sanity cap because I was pretty much just talking to
 myself for ten hours every day, right? Despite my best
 efforts, I constantly felt guilty-- even when I was
 cuddling one twin, there was another twin who wasn't
 being cuddled. In contrast, my first day back at work,
 I put on a REAL bra and a pair of shoes. My boobs
 stayed in my shirt most if the day (except when I was
 pumping). If someone needed my attention they asked
 politely and in the English language. I ate a
 delicious, hot lunch with two hands, while talking to
 adults. I scheduled bathroom breaks based on my own
 biological needs, not someone else's. And I earned
 money-- money that puts a roof over our heads, buys us
 food, and will educate my children.And my babies? They
 are happy. If they miss their mama they don't let on--
 they seem quite content with their nanny. I do get up
 an hour early so I can play with them before work, and
 I leave as early as I can to spend time with them
 before bed. I definitely treasure the time we have
 together more than I did when it stretched out before
 us endlessly-- no more furtive glancing at the iPad
 while we're hanging out-- and I feel the attention give
 them is higher quality too. All in all, I am so happy
 to be working. I think it is best for me, my babies,
 and my family.Anyone else?

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2. Nanny Trust - What to Do
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ljsanfran - 1/1/2013 3:32 pm

 We have had our full-time nanny for almost 2 years
 since our boy/girl twins were newborns. I have had few
 complaints over the years - she is caring, careful,
 flexible, fun, energetic and helps our household in
 many ways. Our kids love her and seem to be thriving. 
 I think I'm a fairly "relaxed" mom and give her a lot
 of leeway but, of course, when I hired her I outlined
 my expectations and the "house rules" very clearly. 
 One of the rules is no TV for the kids and I have been
 very clear about it in writing and verbally. I found
 out this morning (was on our On Demand programming)
 that she watched an hour program yesterday with them
 (and who know how many other times). To make it worse,
 she watched it first thing in the morning after not
 seeing them for a week after a Christmas holiday. I
 would think if there was a time she would be engaged
 with the kids, that would be it. While watching a
 little TV isn't going to kill the kids (we let them do
 it now
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